NO GREATER WITNESS

THERE IS NO GREATER WITNESS FOR CHRIST THAN A GODLY MARRIAGE.

How a man relates to his wife is the primary focus in building a healthy marriage. Here are three things a husband should do towards his wife: Love Her, Lead Her and Listen to Her.

LOVE HER

There is absolutely no mistake about it. The Christian husband is commanded by God to love his wife as Christ loved the Church. So brothers, the key to loving your wife is finding out how Christ loves the Church. It is given to us in Ephesians 5:25-31.

LEAD HER

To lead simply means to go before or to show the way. The husband is in a position of headship and leadership.
Ref. Ephesians 5:23; I Cor. 11:3, 8, 9; I Tim. 2:13

LISTEN TO HER

One of the most common complaints wives have about their husbands is, “My husband doesn’t listen to me.” Husbands usually find it hard to listen especially when their wives talk about problems. According to Jim Gray, in his book Men Are From Mars and Women are from Venus, men find it hard to listen because he feels she is holding him responsible; she talks about a problem he can do nothing about; or he is waiting for her to get to the bottom line and she keeps going and going and going and going…

This is what I've learned:

Listening shows INTEREST- she feels VALUED.
Listening secures INFORMATON - she feels VALIDATED.
Listening starts INTIMACY - she feels VINDICATED.

Remember guys, it is so easy for us to get side-tracked and neglect to LOVE, LEAD and LISTEN to our wives. Here's the key - love her like you would your own body; lead her as if you were in her place; listen to her as if every word were as important as a precious rain drop in a dry desert.